Emotional Alchemy: Welcoming the Parts You Abandoned
A slow return to the pieces you were told were “too much.”
Photo by Anastasia Vikhareva on Unsplash
There are parts of you you learned you had to hide.
The sensitive one.
The angry one.
The needy one.
The too-much one.
The part who wanted — deeply.
Not because you were wrong. But because somewhere along the way, you were taught: Love is something you earn by shrinking yourself.
Emotional alchemy is the sacred return of those parts. Not to fix them. But to remember they were never the problem.
✧ 01. Why We Abandon Ourselves
For many women, self-abandonment isn’t a flaw. It’s an adaptation.
We learn:
To be pleasant to be accepted
To be independent to avoid burdening others
To be silent to stay safe
To be strong to keep love close
The world praises the version of you that hurts the least to love.
But the cost is high: You lose contact with who you are in exchange for who you’re expected to be.
This is not failure.
It’s survival.
✧ 02. The Parts You Sent Away Are Still Yours
Even in exile, those parts don’t disappear.
They move underground:
into the muscle that clenches
the throat that tightens
the impulse you suppress
the emotions you apologize for
The body never betrays what the mind forgets. Your symptoms aren’t problems. They are messengers.
✧ 03. Somatic Truth: Every Part Want is Belonging
Even the parts you judge were always trying to help.
✔ Protect you
✔ Preserve connection
✔ Keep you alive
Your “too much” was once your integrity.
Your “neediness” was your attachment system asking for safety.
Your anger was your boundaries trying to speak.
When you stop exiling these parts…they stop screaming.
✧ 04. The Alchemy Begins With Listening
Emotional alchemy is not:
✗ fixing thoughts
✗ faking peace
✗ forcing positivity
It is:
✔ letting the body speak
✔ witnessing what was once unwitnessed
✔ honoring every emotion as information
✔ offering presence to what was pushed away
We don’t rush healing.
We befriend it.
✧ 05. A Gentle Practice: The Chair of Return
There is a ritual I use with clients when they’re ready to reconnect with the parts of themselves they’ve learned to abandon.
It’s called: The Chair of Return.
A somatic invitation to meet the part of you who still waits to be chosen.
✥ You won’t fix her.
✥ You won’t analyze her.
✥ You’ll just listen.
✦ Want to try this practice for yourself?
Receive the full guided ritual as a printable PDF:
The Chair of Return – Free Ritual Download
A gentle somatic exercise to rebuild trust with the parts of you that feel “too much.”
→ Includes full instructions
→ Journal prompts for integration
→ Designed to be revisited again + again
✧ 06. You Weren’t Meant to Do This Alone
Welcoming yourself back is brave, holy work.
You deserve a space to be held while you:
Soften what’s been hardened
Feel what’s been numbed
Listen to what’s been silenced
Reclaim what was once abandoned
You are not too much. You were just never meant to carry this alone.
You can come back to yourself — in pieces, in presence, in whispers.
Sometimes healing sounds like: “Don’t leave me behind again.”
For a Gentle Next Step:
✿ The First Whisper
A free ritual to reconnect to the parts of you that feel forgotten.
This guided practice helps you choose a flower ally and awaken intuitive communication with your body.
✿ Flower Essence Activation Journal
A somatic journey to explore emotional alchemy with flower spirit support.
Inside you’ll find:
Ritual prompts
Body-based reflections
Space for unwinding + integration
Your abandoned parts are not broken. They’re simply waiting for your return.
With care,
Kimberly
